Coping with Breakups: Strategies for Healing a Broken Heart

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Gagan Datta

May 21 , 2024

Breakups. The feeling that no one in a relationship wants to go through. Breakups can be one of the most emotional and stressful experiences of our lives, our world can turn upside down in a second because it’s not just because of the loss of your partner, but also the dreams, aspirations, commitments, excitement and hope for the future, everything just comes crumbling down like that.

What Can Cause a Breakup?

Deal Breakers: Breakups can occur because you and the partner do not share interests, opinions, goals, beliefs and so many things. If we don’t know and do not express all this very early in the relationship, it can later lead to problems.
Infidelity: Cheating on your partner or infidelity can be one of the reasons for breakups. When trust is broken, it becomes difficult to rebuild the foundation of love and security.
Emotional Connection: Intimacy is not just physical but also should be emotional in a relationship. Without emotional connection, this relationship feels shallow, boring and incomplete.
Jealousy: This is another one of the reasons why breakups happen. You or your partner having too much insecurities about each other. This becomes overwhelming and a main factor why couples breakup.
Zero Compromise: Compromising in a relationship plays a big role on how it works, if they can’t compromise or exhibit selfish, stubborn, ego etc., the relationship will definitely will not last.

There will be many other reasons why a relationship cannot last, which can impact the person as a whole.

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What Happens to A Person After Breakup?

Even if you first initiated the breakup, or you were the one who was broken up with, or if the breakup was mutual, we go through a lot of emotions. There is no specific way of feeling in a breakup. Many people feel sadness, anger, even relief at times, frustration and confusion but there are something to watch out for:

i. Low self-confidence: Breakups may make us question our self esteem, it makes us get an insight on what might have gone wrong and what exactly we need in a relationship

ii. Depression: It is very normal to feel depressive after a relationship, because we tend not greive not just the past that we spent, but often the future we thought of with them. But if these depressive symptoms get worse or start disturbing your everyday life then it’s time to reach out to someone.

These are just some of the things we may feel, many resort to different methods in order to cope and move on.

Now while reading this you might think why am I talking about breakups and not giving different ways and methods and we can cope with breakups. Well here you go:

Vindicate your feelings: It is very important for us to understanding how we are feeling after a breakup. Some feelings like sadness, anger, freedom, relief or understanding, We must give ourself time to understand them. Instead of feeling guilt, let’s focus on the different lessons that we learnt from the relationship.
Coming to terms with the new normal: When you lose a partner, you essentially lose a friend, it will take time to make new daily habits, how you spend your day, or anything that reminds us of your ex-partner. Finding new hobbies, goals or new habits can help us move on from this relationship.
Practice Self-care: Dedicating time for us to rest, eating well and taking care of yourself is crucial in rebuilding our physical and emotional journey.
Lean into healthy habits: Prioritize exercise, rest, nourish your body, having a balanced diet and usually do things physical wellbeing.
Reach out: Reaching out to our mutual friends or family will help you move on into the new normal. Support from our family and friends helps us cope better.
Be optimistic: Being positive about the future helps us to be excited and helpful in moving on. It can also help in building resilience and how to bounce back from setbacks like this.
Expect Healing to take time: We should accept one thing and that is breakups take time to heal. It is very much possible that we may never get over them completely. The key is to learn to move on.

Nursing a Broken Heart Takes Tender Care

In the end, experiencing a breakup can be extremely difficult and emotionally taxing. However, it is crucial to keep in mind that it can also present a chance for individual development and recovery. In these challenging times, it is essential to look after yourself and make your well-being a top priority. If necessary, do not hesitate to seek assistance from a professional. Therapists or counsellors can offer guidance and support as you work through the process of healing. They can provide useful techniques and strategies to manage the emotional difficulties of a breakup. Reach out to us at Heart It Out for expert support.