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The Importance of Empathy: Understanding Your Partner's Perspective

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Tanisha Dharmai

May 22 , 2024

Heard of the phrase “to put oneself in another’s shoe”? Empathy is nothing but putting ourselves in our partner's position, viewing the world from their perspective, and comprehending their emotions. Building a foundation of respect, understanding, and love amongst people is the goal of developing empathy; it goes beyond simply a closer bond. 

What Is Empathy?

The capacity to sense the feelings and emotions of others is known as empathy. Three components make up empathy: Cognitive empathy, which enables one to identify and comprehend the feelings of others; Emotional empathy, which exceeds cognitive understanding and involves experiencing what others are feeling; and Compassionate empathy, which inspires us to be helpful, console, and support others. Empathy is the heartbeat of healthy relationships.

Why Is Empathy so Important in Relationships?

  1. Helps build trust : Being understood creates a safe place for your partner to be vulnerable, giving them a space to share their innermost feelings without being judged. This helps partners bond and grow in trust.

  2. Improves quality of communication: Once your partner feels understood, you understand their perspective better, as it allows them to communicate freely. Thus helps you communicate more efficiently and in return you too feel understood. Hence empathy is a two way street.

  3. Reduces Conflict: Conflicts occur when one’s views don’t match the others.Empathy helps us see the situation from our partner’s viewpoint, helping us feel exactly what they feel and thus helps reduce conflict or rather helps in settling it on middle grounds.

  4. Emotional Bolster : Empathy helps us provide a safe place for our partner, like giving them a shoulder to cry on, actively listening to them, helping them make decisions. This in turn boosts intimacy in relationships.

  5. Helps foster mutual respect: Once partners know and understand each other, it's easier to respect their goals, interests, accept their fears, struggles, accept them for who they are and thus respect each other for who they are.

Empathy is not something that comes naturally. It calls for perseverance, hard work, and stepping outside of your comfort zone.It involves viewing your partner as a separate individual with their own experiences, emotions, and viewpoints rather than as an extension of oneself. But how does one cultivate empathy? Don't worry we've got that covered for you.

Here's how You Can Cultivate Empathy in Your Relationship

  1. Practice Active Listening: When talking to your partner, listen attentively. Focus and put away all distractions. Be fully present in the conversation, using appropriate body language such as nodding, asking questions, paraphrasing to help them know that you have understood and importantly making eye contact. 

  2. Validating their emotions: Apart from actively listening , validate their emotions and feelings. Tell them that it's alright to feel the way they do and be non-judgemental about their opinions. It helps strengthen the relationship. 

  3. Emotional support: Be fully present for your partner, show up emotionally in both their ups and downs.

  4. Spending quality time: Empathy can be expressed only when partners share quality time. Take out time from your busy schedule to do activities that interest you both. Engage in activities that may be of their interest too, it helps understand them better. Adapting to their love language is also beneficial.

  5. Acceptance: Accepting your partner for who they are helps increase empathy. Every individual is unique and accepting your partner's differences helps them feel safe as well as they feel emotionally accepted. 

  6. Perspective - taking: One of the most important techniques of cultivating empathy is practicing perspective taking. Imagining walking in their shoes, how would they feel in a particular situation? What would they do? Perspective- taking helps us take a glance through their eyes, in turn helps us understand them better. 

  7. Sharing your own feelings: Lastly let’s remember that empathy is a two way street. Quite often we are also overwhelmed with things and being vulnerable to our partners helps them understand our perspective thus creating reciprocity in the relationship.

Thus, apply empathy, hold your partner's hand, offer a shoulder for them to rest on, give them a strong hug after a long; exhausting day at work, cover them with a blanket when they're cold and asleep, take them shopping, or do anything else that makes you both happy. Above all, remember to be fully present because, as the saying goes, "Love is a feeling, but empathy is an experience." You don't want to miss out on this journey together. 

For professional support with a relationship expert, reach out to us at Heart It Out today!

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